The few often ruin it for the many. Here are a five cases in which some men ruin it for the rest of their gender.
5. Trying to be the alpha male. Literature and film loves the alpha male, real life, not so much. The confidence, the aggression is rarely attractive for longer than it takes him to get you off. The problem is to be an alpha male, they have to be pretty focused on their social status. Meaning two things: 1. they spend more attention to themselves than to their women and 2. that with them you become nothing more than an accessory to their status. Seriously, I am not an accessory, I’m the fucking designer dress.
4. Judging each other. You know who is usually holding you back from really kinky sex? Not women, but it is actually other men. Men are missing out on some of the craziest sex acts out of fear of being judged by their peers. If a man is open to anal himself, he might have more chance convincing his woman to. To be completely fair, he’ll probably enjoy it more than she will! Don’t be afraid of being judged, women adore ambiguity.
3. Promoting skinny image. Women are just as guilty here, perhaps even more so, but the a change can start with the men. If we’re not well-fed and insecure about or bodies, the sex will be half-hearted and in the dark. If confidence is built we’ll be like tigers, showing everything we’ve got. And we’ll have the energy to pull it off.
2. Whistles and cat calls. There are two kinds of people that like compliments: men and women. We love it when we get attention. We love compliments. It is nice to know that our efforts at being as pretty as we can be are noticed and appreciated, but men need to think about how they show their appreciation. Whistling and bragging about the things you want to do to us are not one of them. It makes us feel uncomfortable and makes us less likely to dress sexy, because we’ll want to avoid these situations. The few ruin it for the many, because if we felt comfortable dressing sexy, imagine all the eye candy men would get. Treat us like ladies and we won’t hesitate to show some skin.
1. Calling us sluts. Women love sex. Probably as much as men do, if not more. Men reading this might be surprised, but it isn’t exactly rocket science. The second we admit to our love of sex, our beautiful bodies and sensual feelings get marred with the label of “slut” or “easy”. It is a label that isn’t hard to remove and makes our lives difficult in many different fields and in some cases can even be perilous for our careers. As a consequence we have to constantly restrain ourselves or suffer a blow to our social status. Women often label each other as sluts and they shouldn’t do it either, but that is all more reason for the men to avoid contributing. Label me as a princess and I might just treat you like a prince, and fuck your brains out, which you may be more interested in.
If you have any others you want to add to the list let me know.
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